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Monday, 27 March 2006
A Man is Nice Part II
Mood:
 chillin'
By building your relationship through friendship, you won't find yourself somewhere down the road saying "he changed", he's not the man I met and fell in love with. Because in actuality, he didn't change, his facade just crumbled, with him becoming the man he really is and not the one that he pretended to be (the one he thought you wanted)to get with you. The charade could only last so long. Plus by being secure in and with yourself, you'll know what it is you really want and not settle, being content to wait for Mr. Right and not keep meeting and dating and sometimes marrying Mr. Wrong!
And for my married sisters, I hope that you have retained your individuality. Not becoming just somebody's wife, mother or child. You too can do some of the things that I listed for my single sisters. Treating yourself to a night out when he doesn't want to go out or has no desire to do so. Stop being a football, basketball or baseball (whichever his sport of choice is)widow on the weekend. Go shopping, to the movies or call a girlfriend and go get a manicure, massage or anything else you have been wanting to do. Your life should not be based on what impact others have on your life. But waht you have on theirs.
All our lives we have been taught that we are the caretakers in our relationships! Now let's share that responsibility with those who share our space and lives, for we all benefit from what we put into it, not just us as the traditional caretaker.
Remember, not only be the best that you can; But be all that you can. The sky is the limit, only you can restrict you in your journey! Above all else remember first and foremost that you are You! And that you don't need a man to validate you, only to enhance that which you already are!
A Man in Nice But He Ain't Necessary
Mood:
chillin'
Hello My Sisters!
Stop feeling like you need a man to make you feel complete! Especially my single sisters. There is nothing wrong with going out alone to a movie, dinner, play or concert. Or even sitting home on a weekend night curled up with a good book or a box of popcorn and that movie that you have been dying to see, that is finally out on video. Instead of hanging out doing the club scene hoping to get lucky. Going out alone affords you the opportunity to meet people you might not otherwise meet if you were with someone. You never know who might be sitting one table over, sitting in the seat next to you at the movies or standing behind you in the concert line.
Take this time to get to know yourself better. Learning hot to not only love yourself, but to like yourself as well! Once you have done this you will enjoy the pleasure of your own company and be content when you are alone and not feel lonely. Once you are content within yourself, you can then invite or welcome someone into your space. Because you know who you are and what you want, anything that this person brings into your space can only enhance what is already there and not consume or misuse it. Ease him into your space. Taking the time to get to know him. Building a foundation for the relationship through friendship.
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